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Friday, November 4, 2011

It May Be Social Phobia

Question:  I am a 25 years old and I am belong from a village. I am recently completed my bcs(Hon's) and now search a job. I have a problem that I cant share with my family relatives and fellows
even my uncle is a doctor and I am not discussed it with him I don't know why?
now come to my problem yesterday I giving interview for a job I got very depressed and my body start vibration due to  pressure I forgot everything.  This is not now this situation is from the sixth standard of my school.  Even in university life I can't present anything in the front of my class and don't ask any question from my teacher during class because of this situation that I wrote above. and one thing other I am living in a hostel, today when I went to take my breakfast from canteen on my turn another guy come and take my breakfast I told him that its mine he give me  but I got the same situation. There is nothing wrong but I don't know why this happened with me. I am normal in the front of my very closed friend, family and relatives.
But I can't present anything(answers, opinion etc.) on the front of unknown. Please some suggestion to avoid this situation I shall be very thankful to you.

Dear Abid,
It sounds like you may be suffering from social phobia.   Social phobia is an ongoing irrational fear of situations that may involve people analyzing or judging you, such as at parties and other social events or at school.  People with social phobia become overwhelmingly anxious and self-conscious in everyday social situations. They have an intense, persistent, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others, and of doing things that will embarrass them. Sometimes, they worry for days or weeks before an upcoming situation. For some people, the fear may become so severe that it interferes with work, school, and other ordinary activities.  Sometimes anti-anxiety or anti-depressant medications help. But what seems to help most is practice. What I mean by practice is, to look in the mirror before you have an encounter and tell yourself, "I'm in control of my mind and my body, everything will be ok and I will successfully present myself in class(or at a party or wherever you are going) today." Say it and believe it. Look at yourself and say it over and over. The key is not to avoid situations but to make yourself face them over and over.  The other part to practice is with friends and family you feel comfortable with. If it's a speech, practice the speech in front of your family at home. If it's a social situation, practice with the friends you feel most comfortable with in a place where you feel comfortable. You will overcome this and you will be successful! Good Luck.