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Saturday, November 6, 2010

Is It Me Or Is It My Husband?

Question: I have been married for seven years now and me and my husband have been having the same problem with him needing to talk to other females from sun up to sun down.  Is this a sign that we are not made for each other? Or am I bringing this pain on myself by not doing something right in my marriage?

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Eleventh Hour LLC said...

Dear Stephanie,
Most husbands are not talking to other women "from sun up to sun down." That's not normal behavior for a married person. You have done nothing wrong. Your husband has an obsession and he needs help to manage it. I'm wondering how it is you have accepted this behavior for 7 years. It is time to get your self-esteem back. You have been a good wife and partner to your husband. You need to find the strength in you to say to him, "I can no longer accept that you feel the need to speak with multiple women all day long. I hope that we can go to therapy together and talk about this issue because if it continues, and we can not resolve it, I'm not going to be able to stay with you. It is very disrespectful and bothers me that you spend so much of your time talking with other women." If he agrees to seek therapy with you, then he deserves the chance to fix this. If he refuses, and does not want to alter the behavior, you have to make a choice to stay and accept it, or leave. Good luck and let us know how it goes.