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Sunday, October 24, 2010

What's Up With My Husband and Sister?

Question: I was supposed to go to a wine festival with my husband and sister which had been planned and they blew me off to watch a football game.  Am I right in being angry at them and thinking they were both selfish?

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Eleventh Hour LLC said...

Dear Donna,
It seems rude that they would make plans with you then suddenly say they are not going. I think it's ok to be upset with them and you deserve some sort of explanation. But first, it is important for you to be able to say to them how much this hurt your feelings. You can say something like, "I was really looking forward to going with you guys to the wine tasting, I'm upset you canceled spending time with me for a football game, was there some other reason that you didn't want to go, I was really disappointed." At the very least, they should be able to hear from this that you were upset and they should be able to apologize. Whether they apologize or not, let it go and move forward. This is the sort of thing that can stew inside of you and create resentment later. Don't let that happen, let it go. The most important part is that you are able to appropriately state your feelings. Being able to do that is empowering.