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Friday, September 3, 2010

My Guy Has Lost Interest

Question: I have been having a weird feeling about the guy I am dating,  like he is talking to someone else or cheating. I feel like he is hiding something from me, because he does not sleep with me anymore, touch me, or kiss me. I just feel like he is just using me cause we were close but now it's like he hates me.

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Laura NP


Eleventh Hour LLC said...

Dear Tricia,
Confrontation is so hard for most of us. Lots of people "act out" like your boyfriend is doing. Instead of simply telling you the truth about what's going on for him, he is displaying negative behaviors to give you some clues. It is time to look him in the eye and say something like, "Things seem so different between us, I'm feeling like you don't even like me anymore. Are you still interested in a relationship with me?" And if he says yes, he still wants to be with you, then you need to point out the specific things that are bothering you. You can say something like, "Well, I'm glad you still want to work on this relationship, but I wonder why we aren't intimate anymore, I feel like you don't want to kiss me or touch me. Is there something keeping us from being intimate?" He may be able to open up and tell you what's going on. If he denies everything even after you confront him, you can see if things change and if they don't, you should consider breaking up. It doesn't feel good to be with a partner who seems so distant. Good luck and let us know how things go.